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Calling Is A Beginning

Category : Leadership, bible

When I was called to full-time vocational ministry I took it as a guarantee of success.

Now it is truth that whatever God calls us in there will be confirmations along the way, but not always success. Calling is a beginning, an orientation to how God wants to you use your life. But it is not a warranty protecting us from failure.

This certainly is born out in the biblical record. Abraham, Moses, David all failed in one way or another. We see that their calling didn’t protect them from their shortcomings, whether personal or professional.

But what we see from these men of God is the ability to learn from their mistakes. Abraham was able to lead Isaac to sacrifice although years earlier he “helped” God by trying to have an heir through Hagar. Moses continued to lead the people up until his death although he struck the rock twice. David obeyed God even when he was being pursued by Absalom.

And ultimately Jesus was considered a failed Messiah. To hang on a cross was the end of his movement. But it was his calling that brought him to that moment where it looked like everything had gone wrong.

But we know that what looks like failure to us is something God uses for His greater success. The cross made possible the resurrection. And our failure, even in the midst of our calling, paves the way for our future success, service, and wisdom.

So let us never doubt our calling even when we trip up and fail, because we are in the company of saints.

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Revenge by Success

Category : Leadership

When I think of revenge I usually think of the Keyser Soze kind from Usual Suspects.  If someone hurts you, you murder them and all their relatives.

But you can have a revenge motivation by wanting to be successful.

We have all done it.  We all have a list of people who have hurt us, ignored us, or didn’t believe in us, and nothing would be better than to rub their face in our success.  We daydream about the shock on people’s face when we prove them wrong.

This is the premise of almost any movie about a high school reunion, but this premise also gets traction in our lives.

But it’s still revenge; motivation to make someone look stupid for hurting or ignoring us.  And this creeps into any endeavor, especially in church leadership.  But although this motivation can remain hidden, it must be discovered and destroyed within a soul because its toxic. If you end up becoming successful and proving people wrong, then you cannot help but be smug and condescending.  If you don’t end up being successful, and your detractors were correct, then you will be devastated.

But our effort should not be connected to proving anything.  Because if we have something to prove, then we can’t truly love people.

Think of Jesus. When he was hanging on a cross all his enemies said, “I told you so!  He could save others, but he can’t save himself.”  But three days later when he was resurrected from the tomb, He didn’t use his success to hurt his enemies, but to draw them into his family.  He forgave their sin; there was no gloating, only love.

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The Break-Up Process

Category : Leadership, christian culture

When you pastor a church you get broken up with multiple times a year. Or better put, people leave your church.

But it’s just like a breakup.  You’ll hear, “it’s not you, it’s me.” “I just don’t think this church is our best fit.” And on it goes.

When this happens it stings.   You want more information.  You ask, “is there anything I can do to get you to reconsider?”

Then you get angry and think about how you are better off without them — “if they just want to be consumer Christians then fine, let them poison another church.”

But then you feel mildly guilty about those thoughts because you should want what is best for them.  And then the slow shame begins to creep in.  You think, “Why didn’t I measure up?” “What could I have done different to make them happy?”  “What is it about me or my leadership that could have prevented all this?”

And then eventually you just accept it, not because you can explain it, but because it just is.  You can’t change it.

So what is a leader to do?  You can understand the break-up process.  Often when people leave it is as if they are saying, “you don’t measure up so I am going to withdrawal.”  And that is why the gospel is so important; because when you didn’t measure up to God, He didn’t withdrawal from you, but came near and helped you.

And what comfort that is!  And that is what can keep you from demonizing people when they do leave.  If God is not making you pay for your sins, you shouldn’t make them pay for theirs either.  And although the break-up is still tough, you actually can legitimately ask, without the shame, “What can I learn from this?”

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Burnout is Bitterness

Category : Leadership

If you have been in a church or any Christian ministry you will observe this phenomenon: the person who began volunteering with alot of joy leaves the church a few months later explaining they’re “burned out.”  The leaders may explain to the burned out person that they can take a break, but usually it is too late — they are out the door.

We often associate burnout with exhaustion, but burnout is usually bitterness.

Their service has a honeymoon period where they believe they are serving the Lord and the church.  But somewhere along the way, and this is subtle, they don’t feel like they are getting thanked properly for their service.  Or they begin to see that they are putting alot of work in when others are just treating the church like consumers.

Then a little thought pops into their minds, “I thank you O God I am not like those other people who attend church just out of a consumer mentality.”  And this leads to a new found sense of righteousness and superiority in their service, which only leads to anger and bitterness.

No one gets bitter because of their “sin”, they get bitter because of their “righteousness.”  They think they deserve better.  And as soon as this attitude takes hold, the work becomes exhausting.  Because the work must now reward them and help them get recognized.  What formerly was a desire to serve, now has become a demand for recognition and the end result is always disappointment.

And that is why the person doesn’t just resign from their job, they leave the church altogether.  And, ironically, all their reasons for leaving have nothing to do with them, it is the church that’s the problem.

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Two Things To Avoid in Leadership

Category : Leadership

Two attitude disciplines that I have instituted for myself:

  1. Never make an excuse for the performance of my organization.
  2. Never explain away someone else’s success.

Why is this important?  Both of them make us think too highly of ourselves.

An excuse just says that things would be better if it wasn’t for circumstances that are outside of our control.  These are easy refuges when we don’t want to admit that it is the way we RESPOND to circumstances that determine the outcome of our organizations.

Of course excuses feel so good because they seem true and they preserve our ego.  But they usually aren’t the full version of the truth and they make us look lame.

Explaining away someone else’s success is just as dangerous.  We become self-appointed experts on someone else’s success.  This is ridiculous.  We often say, “If I just had their resources, or intellect, or context, then I would have the same kinds of success.”

I know so many leaders who say that if they were just in a different city then they would have a bigger, more influential organization.  But they wouldn’t.  Why?  Because even if they were in a different city it would still be them leading the organization.

We don’t want to face the fact that WE may need to improve instead of our circumstances.  Ultimately, we are afraid because self-improvement is hard work and leaves us without excuse.  But when we learn to get over ourselves we may discover the beginning of that great organization we hoped for without all the ego.

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Future Problems From Those Who Make History?

Category : Leadership, Politics

I have not followed the health care bill too closely, although it seems that most people, even the people who voted for it, don’t like it.  But what the proponents of the bill are celebrating, and the what the media is covering, is that “history was made.”

But this is backwards.  And it is not just with Democrats and health care.  George W. Bush was intent on being a transformational president as well, making history in security and “compassionate conservatism.”

But the future is often forfeit by those who try to make history.

As is the case with both Bush and Obama, they borrow from the future to leverage their present accomplishments.  For what ambition is left for person who becomes president?  It is, of course, to be considered a great president.  And great presidents are made through doing big, historic things.

That is why the stickiest statement with Obama’s presidency was actually given by his chief of staff, Rahm Emanuel: ““Rule one: Never allow a crisis to go to waste. They are opportunities to do big things.”

The financial crisis was the lever to pass healthcare.  911 was the lever to go to Iraq.  That is why people are angry.  The 21st century has been one crisis after one another.  But instead of fixing the crisis we get “history.”

If I hire someone to mow my lawn and they instead start building an addition on my house, I will be upset.  Not because the addition might not benefit me in some way, but because that is not what I hired the person to do.  And its even worse when the person who builds that addition took out a credit card in my child’s name to pay for it.

I, for one, am ready for leaders who care more about the future than making history.