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Why Tebow Matters

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Okay I might as well jump on the hype about Tim Tebow.

I was only a peripheral observer of his career in college — (I watched him and his team beat Ohio State twice in the national championship game) — and since I can’t bring myself to care about the NFL, I just saw headlines that he was a Bronco and that (I guess) he isn’t a good pro-style quarterback.

But he is generating a lot of attention. The hype seems one-part, “I can’t believe someone actually believes Christianity is true and not just someone to point to after a touchdown.” One part, “Can you believe how bad he is for 3 quarters and then finds a way to win?” And one part, “Finally a quarterback to talk about that is not Brett Favre.”

And typical with controversy is the division of reactions. On one side you have the haters: the ones who are foaming at the mouth to see Tebow fail, either morally or professionally. On the other side are the true believers that moved Tebow to the top of the prayer list so people see that righteousness can be rewarded. But that is not the story — that’s not the spark that caused this blaze.

The fire was started because the world took notice of someone who is not trivial, in a world of trivialities. Just as light dispels darkness, weighty things always displace light things. Amazing talent and hard work is common in the NFL. But not goodness. And Tebow demonstrates that accomplishment is trivial, but goodness is glorious.

Of course, Tebow’s accomplishments are his megaphone, but his goodness, informed by his faith, is the content that screams that we were all made for another world: the ignored world where faith and goodness (righteousness) matter, not salary, biceps, or how fast you run 40 yards.

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Weight of Being a Good Mom

Category : life

Guest post by Jenny Dorr

The Weight

Most people simply know me as a wife and a mother.  But what most people don’t know about me is that I am also a skilled weight carrier. You might see me shopping for this week’s groceries, Starbuck’s in one hand and a stack of coupons in the other, while pushing an over-flowing cart containing a crumb-covered baby (seriously, whoever invented the free bakery cookie must have been a mom), a five year-old boy using a loaf of french bread as a light saber, and more frozen pizzas than my family should be eating .  And while I might make it look effortless, I am, in fact, balancing a 900lb weight on my shoulders, as well.

What is this burden that is weighing me down and making it even more difficult to push a “do you need help out to your car?” shopping cart?  It is the weight of being a good mom.

It’s Always There

It’s like the sports scores that run across the bottom of the screen while my husband is watching Sports Center, or the school closings that scroll below the morning talk show that I don’t have time to watch.   It’s that constant. Did my daughter take her homework to school, when did the baby have her last diaper change, who took the end of the toilet paper roll and left it empty, why is there a Polly Pocket in my shoe, will I ever get a chance to vacuum the cobwebs out of the corner of the laundry room, and do I have anything to make for dinner tonight besides frozen pizza?

And that’s just the day-to-day upkeep of life.  What about the deeper responsibilities of motherhood: Have I made the right decision for my kids about schooling?  Did I handle that tantrum in the best way?  Are my kids gaining an understanding of God’s love and grace for them?  Am I listening to them enough?  Have I taught them enough?  Am I showing them love enough?

Lifting Weights

I’ve tried schedules, calendars, organizers, lists and charts to try to lift the weight.  But even on my most organized, successful days – the ones when I wouldn’t care who showed up at my door because I somehow managed to get three kids and myself cleaned, dressed, fed, as well as, make my house look like the cover of Martha Stewart Living – the weight is still there.

The truth is that desiring to be a good mother is not really the weight.  The weight is the fear and worry that come alongside the desire to be a good mother.  And when fear and worry about a good desire start to dominate life and control my thoughts I need to call it what it is: idolatry, plain and simple.  It’s a good thing elevated to a God thing.

What Good Mothers Remember

If I’ve learned anything over the last seven years of mothering, it’s that the only thing that lifts the weight from my shoulders is remembering that Jesus died for good mothers.

The weight of perfectly remembering every detail for each of my kids, as well as, purposefully pouring life into their little souls is more than I can bear.  But there is sweet relief when I confess my own idolatry and rest in Jesus’ promise that His yoke is easy and His burden is light.  No matter how I work at it, I won’t get it all right all the time.  But God gives just as much grace when I stand before my kids as he does when I kneel at the foot of the cross.

My desire to be a good mother will never go away and I will always continue to work hard at it, but the weight to do it perfectly and completely will only be eased as I look to my own perfect Father and trust the Gospel of his grace for me and my family.  And some days that might just mean that we’re having frozen pizza for dinner again.

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Grieving the Grief About Jobs

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I once read somewhere a music icon’s grief over the memorial tributes at the Grammy Awards. Somewhere along the way in the reward ceremony, people who have died in the music business are projected on a screen with appropriately sad, but hopeful music. These are always nice tributes, the author states, except for the applause.

People only really clap when someone famous is on the screen. And this all struck the author as something dead serious. They were not clapping for the person who died, they were clapping for their fame.

I can’t help but think of all this at the out-pouring of grief over Steve Jobs. Our memorializing is not real grief or care for Jobs and his family. But our grief is a tribute to what we all worship: the ability to change the world. We don’t care about Jobs. (how could we, unless we knew him?). We love what he accomplished. He was deemed worthy of the secular calling to change the world and was rewarded with power, fame, and riches.

He is iConic now. Not just because he made great products, built a great business, or had people hanging on his every product launch. He is the patron saint of those who want to change the world and be recognized for doing so. All this reveals a great vacuousness of the human spirit. And I just wish a little bit of the outpouring of grief for Jobs would turn back to ourselves.

Our spirit will not really soar on the heights of world impact, although we are deceived into thinking so. Our soul will only thrive when we connect to the Reality that has true glory — One who will really make the world better, because He has reversed the curse of the bitten apple. And His offer of a new world doesn’t come with contracts. His new Earth is given without cost — given to those who lay I down.

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The Role of the Sermon Part 2

Category : Christian Life, life

When Jesus taught the way of love in the Sermon on the Mount, he wanted all his disciples to put his commands into practice. But even in our first reading of the SOM, we find that Jesus commands are not easy.  Commands like loving our enemies, turning the other cheek when struck, going the extra mile when someone is taking advantage of us seem downright impossible. This is partially why we still remain foolish — only hearing Jesus’ words and not putting them into practice.

So how does a disciple actually try to do the things written about in this sermon with a sense of sanity and joy? First, we must clear the obstacles to obedience. And the biggest obstacle is religion. When I say religion, I mean relating to God formulaicly; thinking that God is pleased by keeping his rules and his ceremonies. Jesus’ whole sermon explains the futility of relating to God this way. Religion keeps God and sacrificial love at an arms length.

Towards the close of the sermon, Jesus contrasts two ways to live: the wide and the narrow. Clearly, He is not talking about people who live for God and those who don’t. He is talking about the two ways to live for God. One is religion — the wide way that leads to destruction. The other is the way of faith and love of Jesus — the narrow road that leads to life. Religion can only create a false perception of ourselves, one that needs to constantly be propped up by the praise and recognition of men.

But the way of Jesus is the secret way, the way of love. Faith in his love and provision is the freedom from getting our way, providing for ourselves, and making sure others give us our due. Once we clear away religion we will then see the clear path to be the people who obey these commands.

To be continued…

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Dealing with Anger

Category : life

How do you deal with anger?

The way we react to the obstruction of our will often determines our quality of life and ability to love in relationships. So here are some of the options:

  1. Explosive temper: This is probably the most obvious form of anger. You raise your voice or verbally assault another person. You may even try to harm a person or other objects.
  2. Stuffing. With a stuffer, the storm of anger has moved internally. The anger will manifest itself in many forms, but the primary outcome of anger being stuffed is depression. Depression, fueled by anger, slowly begins to dominate someone’s spirit until their heart is wrecked.
  3. Cynicism, Judgment, and Gossip. These three manifestations of anger could be put in separate categories, but I will put them in one because they are all interconnected. Cynicism is an expression of anger by finding fault and living with distrust of others. Judgment is evaluating others on WHY they do the things they do and then SEEING them on the basis of your evaluation. Slander, of course, just shares this judgment with others.

But is there a way to deal with anger in a way that is emotionally healthy and not harmful to your friends and family? This doesn’t have an easy answer, but here are a few thoughts:

  1. Anger should be named for what it is. We need to say to ourselves (and, sometimes, others), “I am angry.” Just as any cure needs a proper diagnosis, we need to be able to recognize when we are angry.
  2. Take your anger to the Lord. Yell and scream before the Lord (even if it has to be in a pillow). Sit and write a letter to the Lord. He can deal with it — you will not write anything that hasn’t been said before in the Bible, particularly the Psalms. Be cognizant of what God brings to mind.
  3. Evaluate your anger. What part of your anger is legitimate? What do we want to be put right? What part is illegitimate? Who do I think owes me?
  4. Confess the sin in your anger, and also affirm what is right about your anger. Not always, but often, our anger is mixed. We can’t let anger make us self-righteous, but we can’t let it devastate us either. And for that repeat step 2.

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My Generation’s Question

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Susan Gregory Thomas:

EVERY GENERATION HAS its life-defining moments. If you want to find out what it was for a member of the Greatest Generation, you ask, “Where were you on D-Day?” For baby boomers, the questions are “Where were you when Kennedy was shot?” or “What were you doing when Nixon resigned?”

For most of my generation — Generation X, born between 1965 and 1980 — there is only one question: “When did your parents get divorced?”

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Be Thankful

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Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you (1 Thessalonians 5:18).

This statement leaps off the page at the end of Paul’s letter. It’s so surprising because God’s will is such a mystery in our lives. We wonder what is the best course of action, what should we give our lives to, and too often we approach God with these questions as if he were speaking in riddles. But God wants us to know his will and Paul just tells us plainly that His will for us is to give thanks in everything. What?

Thankfulness is about receiving, not about giving; not like a consumer, but as one given a gift. And to be thankful in all circumstances means that we are to receive every circumstance of life as if from our heavenly Father.He is superintending our life. He is directing it. He is in charge of the good and the bad things that happen to us. He is working everything for good, although we cannot fathom how he would do that.

Thankfulness isn’t a command after things go well, but constant reminder that God is running our life and circumstances for our good.

But we disobey this command with regularity. Why? Because we want to be God’s hired workers, not children at Christmas time. We want a certain return for time invested. But God isn’t looking for hired workers. He is looking for people whose lives who have acknowledged that all of life is a gift and every circumstance will work out for good, because it is all coming from God.

And imagine the life that RECEIVES everything with thankfulness. That person would be incredibly secure in this world, not anxiously working, hoping that life will work out. They will find every grace in even the hardest circumstance, knowing that thankfulness IS the resource to a life that overcomes.

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All Things Are Yours

Category : life

So let no one boast in men. For all things are yours, whether Paul or Apollos or Cephas or the world or life or death or the present or the future—all are yours, and you are Christ’s, and Christ is God’s (1 Corinthians 3:21-23).

This has been a precious statement to me once I understood what it meant. At first glance this can look somewhat like a “name-it-claim-it” statement where we declare that we possess things because we are a Christian.

When Paul is saying that “all things are yours,” it is not possessive. I can’t say, “I can have that car in the name of Jesus.” “All things are yours” means that every circumstance serves you. And the people that God puts in your life serve you. The people and circumstances don’t serve you because you have power over them, but they serve your ultimate good, whether they are good or bad.

This is only possible because you are in Christ, if you have trusted in Him. Everything is serving Christ, and since you are in Christ, everything is serving you, like a servant to a master. So all the good things and the bad things are your servant for your good.

Everything, good and ill, serves Christ’s purposes. All those who have trusted in Christ are now fully identified with him so that their life perfectly plays out exactly as Jesus wants. They no longer have to worry abut getting life right, because they are right in Christ Jesus. They no longer have to toil painfully for life to be good. The God of the universe now takes personal responsibility to see that good will happen to all those who trust in Him.

So what circumstance and person can now get you down? For even if life is not turning out the way you dreamed, you can be assured that God is working something good beyond your wildest dreams.

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On Criticism

Category : Uncategorized, life

In C.S. Lewis’s “Horse and His Boy” two horses and their riders are racing back to Archenland to warn the king of their enemies, who are arriving unaware. Although they are going fast, the horses are not quite running as fast as they could. Suddenly a lion jumps out of the thicket and begins to pursue the horses, who find that they could run faster. Later we find that the lion was Aslan himself, scaring the horses to run at their true speed because they they needed to go faster because of the pursuing army.

Lewis gives us an apt lesson here that could easily apply to criticism.

Criticism can cripple us. We know that it shouldn’t, but when someone criticizes our effort we have a hard time getting back to a peaceful equilibrium. For one, it is much easier to criticize, than actually do the work. Our hours of hard work can be dismissed in just moments. Often criticism is condemning, looking not only at the perceived error, but then attributing the error as something wrong about the person. This is what Jesus means by seeing a speck in your brother’s eye, but having a plank in your own (Matthew 7).

For comfort, we often look for flaws in the other person to deflect the criticism. “They never liked me anyway.” “They are just cranks.” “They didn’t criticize me in love, or at the right time, or with the right tone…” and on and on it goes.

But what if criticism is our Lord in disguise? This surely doesn’t mean that the critique has to be embraced, although that might be just exactly what we have to do. It might be God himself using a critic to get you to be sharper, or less dependent on the opinion of men, and more dependent on him. We might fancy ourselves as very loving people indeed, patient, and forbearing — until we get criticized. Then we justify our lack of love (by keeping a record of wrongs), by their lack of love (“don’t they know a Christian is supposed to be loving?”).

When Aslan chased Bree (one of the Narnian horses), Bree found out he wasn’t as noble as he supposed. And this was all the better. For Bree learned that his estimation of himself was not who he was, but his happiness didn’t depend on his estimation of himself. Have you ever thought that criticism may just be goodness and mercy pursuing you (Psalm 23:6)?

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If, Then

Category : Holy Spirit, life

One of the greatest sources of misery in our lives flows from “if, then” living. The attitude goes like this: “If I get life right by doing right things or believing right things, then life will go the way I want it to.” This is the essence of the law: “if you are careful to obey everything written in the book of the law, then I will bless you and things will go well with you” (Deuteronomy 30:16).

When we try to live “if, then” circumstances become incredibly important in the evaluation of our lives. If things are going well then we attribute it to our good living. This creates pride and condescension. When things are not going well, we wonder what we did wrong. This creates despair, anxiety, and blame: blaming God, others, and/or ourselves.

This is especially important in our lives with God. God has set “if, then” aside as the rule for living. Paul says in Romans 7 that the Law is our first wife that died and now we are freed to marry another. He says that we no longer serve in the old way of the written code, but in the new way of the Spirit. So “if, then” is no longer relevant when it comes to our life with God. Now the new “rule” of living is the Holy Spirit.

So this makes instruction on the Holy Spirit vitally important. The leadership of the Holy Spirit is how we live our Christian lives right now. He guides, comforts, convicts, challenges, gives wisdom, and points us to Christ’s work and not our own. The Holy Spirit produces what God commands. His power and presence is accessed by faith.

That is why life in the “new promise” of Jesus is so much better than the “old promise.” The old covenant said that if we obey, God will bless. The new covenant says that God has blessed us in Christ, and our present obedience is the work of another: God himself, living in us, carrying out His will.