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On Cynicism Part 2

Category : Christian Life, life

So how do we fight cynicism? (See part one for context).

Since cynicism is primarily a sin of anger, then we fight cynicism by fighting anger. But we often don’t want to fight anger. We don’t want to fight because we feel justified in the way we feel. To give up anger often means having to give up our correct position – a position we think we deserve.

We must move forward, though, before the arrogance grows until it envelops our whole self. That is, until we are just a SELF, nothing more.

So first, as in all anger, we must humble ourselves. Cynicism says, “the world would be a better place if people just thought like me.” We have to give up this position. The world would be a better place if the cynic immediately forgoes their superiority.

Of course it is easy to say that the prideful must humble themselves. How simple! But cynicism is the outcome of an identity – an identity where knowledge has puffed us up.  And identities are not easy given up. Identities can’t just be dropped, they need to be replaced.

If cynicism says, “I distrust you because I know better,” than a new identity must say, “how can I understand you and help you?” But how to get this new identity? How do we truly seek to understand and serve people?

We clothe ourselves in the story of the One who understood us and served us anyway. Jesus is superior! But instead of flaunting his superiority, he clothed himself as a servant. He put himself in our position.

But he didn’t do this for innocent victims. He did this for arrogant people, people who thought they were better than others. Jesus was better than others! But he willingly took our reproach upon himself, and gave us his righteousness.

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If I Could Go Back

Category : Leadership

Advice From The Future

I have been in full-time, vocational ministry for almost a decade.  If I could go back 10 years and give one piece of advice to my 22- year-old self here is what I would say:

Never seek the approval of religious people.

A religious person is almost impossible to please.  They are motivated by correctness; being right.  For a religious person, wrongness (as they perceive it) is dangerous.  If love covers a multitude of sins, then fear will look for any transgression.

They feel incredibly righteous when they blindly harm you.  Since you are the problem they must reject you, or belittle you.  You are the bad guy and they are good.  They congratulate themselves on how well they have behaved, all the while they are trying to make you pay for your failure, whether by fighting or withdrawing. They are unmerciful, because mercy is not their concern — purity is — and they think God has tapped them to call fouls as to what is pure and not pure.

They love those who love them, approve of those with whom they agree.  They can not listen, they can only evaluate.  Judgment is on their tongues, planks cover their eyes. Outwardly they are put together, but inwardly they rage. Lost people can stay lost; the found need a better church.

Why Seek This Approval?

Why would I seek the approval of these people?  Because I was one of them.  I wanted to be a Pharisee of Pharisees.  I wanted religious people to see and celebrate my zeal for God, my knowledge of the Bible, my purity, the way God had gifted me.  I wanted to be seen as part of the solution, not part of the problem.

But God, mercifully, showed me grave error.  My righteousness was the problem, my goodness a filthy rag.  Love is now the driving ethic, not purity — because it was love that put a pure man on the cross for the filthy — stained by sin and a damnable goodness.

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Stunted Growth

Category : Christian Life

If you don’t feel like you are growing in the faith, please don’t blame your church first.

One of the marks of immaturity is to blame others for your lack of progress.  Renewal simply cannot come primarily through other people.  It first begins with your engagement with God in private.

But why do so many people blame their church when they are not growing in their faith?

Bitterness.

The writer of Hebrews tells us that those who let bitterness spring up in their lives are those who “miss the grace of God.”  They literally are incapable of experiencing God’s daily sustaining grace.  Because to receive grace our hearts must say, “I don’t deserve.”  But in bitterness our hearts are saying, “I deserve:”

  • “I deserve to be well thought of.”
  • “I deserve more money.”
  • “I deserve good relationships.”
  • “I deserve to be happy.”

And when we are bitter we rarely think of ourselves as bitter.  We think of ourselves as right. “We are right to feel this way because the other person behaved so badly.”  The power of this thinking is that there is a seed of truth that has sprung up into a huge lie; bitterness masquerades as righteousness.

And we can easily see how this plays out in churches.  If we are harboring bitterness towards other church members or it’s leadership then we don’t think we are bitter, we think we’re right.  And so we blame the church.  But the tragedy here is that the individual is the one “missing the grace of God,” not the church.

And we can see how this causes so much trouble.  The individual needs to be called out because they are blinded to their sin by their perceived goodness.  Rebuking violations to God’s law is easy, but asking someone to forsake their self-righteousness and their “I deserve” attitude is quite another.  But only here can the grace of God be rediscovered.


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Persecution :: Dumb Things We Say

Category : Christian Life, church

It is commonly believed that persecution might be the greatest thing for the church in the west. The thinking goes like this:

“Calling yourself a Christian in our society is too easy.  We don’t back up what we believe with true Christ-like action, so if a persecution became widespread there would a separation between who is a true Christian and who is false.”

This is probably true, and it’s also a really dumb thing to say; because how do you really know what persecution would do to YOUR faith?  Postulating on persecution from the comfort of your sofa is easy, but it would be quite another thing to those your job because you are a Christian.  What if your house foreclosed because you were a Christian?  Or your family was killed or taken from you?  What if raising your children to love Jesus was considered child abuse?

Most of us have no idea what persecution would mean — but we can ask a few questions that are pointers to how we would react:

  1. How do you react now when you are disrespected? (If you don’t know, ask your spouse or a good friend).  Do you respond with love and prayer, seeking reconciliation, or do you complain and speak evil of the offender?
  2. How do you react if something is taken from you unfairly?  Do you get bitter?  Or do respond with joy knowing that you have a better city (Hebrews 10:34)?
  3. Would you attend church services in basements, with no childcare, no sound system, very little music?  Would you begrudge it?

And many more questions could be asked – so if we want Christians in the west to be more authentic, more faithful, then let’s pray and work towards a gospel renewal — not smugly proclaim that we need a good persecution. Because are you really so sure your faith will last?

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“Why I’m Better Than You”

Category : apologetics

Go up to anyone and ask them this question, “Do you think you are better than me?” And the automatic answer from most everyone will be an emphatic, “no!”

But our hearts tell a different story.  We just don’t want to be different than others, we want to be better than others. We establish our self-image not on the basis of who we we are, but where we rank:

  1. We rank ourselves by how many people know us and like us (popularity).
  2. We rank ourselves by our perceived intelligence.
  3. We rank ourselves on ability to be open and loving.
  4. We rank ourselves on our political ideology
  5. We rank ourselves by assuring ourselves that we are not like the people who hurt us.

A biblical author calls this “the boastful pride of life.”  We find a way to position ourselves.  Is it any wonder we have such conflict and fear?

If you have to be seen as morally superior in any area, then you will fight when others are not recognizing your positional worth, that “you are not like other men.”

Fear arises when you will not be able to maintain your rank or achieve your desired position.  That is why the inability to even live up to our own standard is so devastating.  We are afraid that we will be seen as “mere men.”

And don’t you see that religion can be just another avenue to boast? We think if we return to God’s ways and values, then God will reward us with security and  a way to feel good about ourselves.

But Christianity is different — it is much more honest. It states that we are too evil to think that we can turn to God’s values and earn His pleasure.  But the gospel is not just more honest, it is good; although we are more evil than any dared believed, we are accepted, not because of our position, but because of Jesus’ position with God that He gives to us as a free gift.

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Choosing To Go to Hell So You Can Do the Right Thing

Category : Leadership, christian culture, church

In the Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, Huck chooses to help Jim, a slave, knowing that he is going to go to hell because of it.

In that one line, Mark Twain exposed some of the foolishness of the Christian religion of the time. The reader knew right away — this religion made it’s cultural understanding the standard of right and wrong.

I am currently reading a biography about Martin Luther. When Luther died the people waited with baited breath to see how he died. It was common knowledge back in the 16th century that if you died suddenly, maybe of a heart attack, that Satan snatched you. So Luther’s friends took pains to explain that Luther’s death was a gradual weakening of strength.

We look at a situation like that from a 21st century perspective and think that is ridiculous. Maybe we don’t believe anymore that sudden death is a sign that Satan “got” you, but we have our own religious and cultural biases that condemn others. And this is so difficult to see.

But usually others can see it.

For instance, and this is a small matter, some people evaluate the health of a church on how many people bring their Bibles to a weekend service. If they see alot of Bibles, then it is thought that people must really care and read their Bibles. And they condemn churches where nobody brings Bibles, and *gasp* put the Scripture up on a screen.

Bringing your Bible to a weekend service is fine, but not to be a major evaluation point on the spiritual vitality of a congregation, because the Bible certainly doesn’t make it a point of righteousness. But if we make this external evaluation it will only be a matter of time where someone has to decide to be condemned in order to do the right thing.

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The Referees Part 2

Category : Christian Life

What do you do when you realize that you are a referee, calling fouls on those who are playing the game?

Know that you are in good company.

When I realized that I sin more like a Pharisee than I do a prostitute, I felt embarrassed, ashamed, and stuck.  My view of repentance was only one-sided.  ”Sure,” I thought, “people who do bad things can be forgiven, but what about those who try to do good things for the wrong reasons?”  Thankfully I remembered that the person who wrote the majority of the letters of the New Testament was just in that position: the apostle Paul.

Paul, or Saul, as he was first called, imprisoned and threatened Christians because he thought he was doing God a favor.  He was God’s referee.  He would do what it took to get people to stop telling others about Jesus.  Didn’t they know that they were teaching false doctrine?  Didn’t they know that this Jesus character was dangerous?

Paul felt justified in hurting Christians; believers who were preaching to people far from God, because all he knew were the rules, and these men and women were breaking the rules by telling others about Jesus.

But Jesus showed up and knocked Saul down.  And that is how Jesus must deal with Pharisees, referees.  They think highly of themselves, but God grace knocks them low.  That is the only way God gets the referees to lose the whistle and join the game.

If you have been brought low and your old assurances and condescensions are laying lifeless on the floor, it’s not because God is trying to punish you, its because He is doing you good — a good that ultimately will extend to people far from Him.

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The Referees

Category : christian culture

You can know that you have fallen from grace when you become a referee.

We all know what a referee is — someone who is not playing the game, but a person who is calling fouls on the people who are.

This, tragically, can be the state of many churches.  Instead of being training camps for missionaries, they are classrooms where people learn all the rules and how to identify when people break them.  And all of this flows from religion.

Religion’s essence is, “I perform, God blesses and approves.”  So you may believe that you believe the correct things, have obeyed God sufficiently, or have had a spiritual experience that proves that you are right with God.  And then you begin to look down and disparage people who don’t measure up.  You start blowing the whistle.

Now you might not be a person who blows the whistle out loud, although that’ll happen eventually.  You might just be despising people in your hearts: “They don’t measure up.”  ”They are not doing what I think they should do.”

And nowhere is this more evident than in the mission to reach lost people.  The story repeats itself every generation.  Missionaries rise up to connect the gospel with their culture and their brothers and sisters begin throwing flags and calling penalties.  New technology arises to reach unbelieving people, or new ways of communicating that connects with contemporary audiences and the religious guard rises up to oppose.

Referees are in the game, they are just not part of it.  They are very knowledgeable — they have to be.  But they don’t care about the mission.  They care about following the rules, not about people.  They are an anchor in the church.

But the wonderful news is that grace exists for referees.  More on that next week …

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Remembering to Forget

Category : Christian Life

But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 3:13-14)

Whenever I read this verse I thought “forgetting what lies behind” meant the bad things I have done or my personal shortcomings that haven’t given me desirable outcomes.  But that is not what Paul is talking about forgetting.

He is forgetting his past righteousness. He is moving past anything that might give him a standing with God apart from Jesus Christ: being a Pharisee of Pharisees, having incredible zeal for God, etc.  Earlier in this chapter he has called all of his former righteousness dung and now he says he is forgetting it.

And this couldn’t be more refreshing.  I tend to get historical with God when I don’t get my way. “God I have served you wholeheartedly.” “I have sacrificed alot to serve you.”  And anytime I am saying these thoughts in my heart I am looking for past obedience to secure a future good.  I am counting on my righteousness to secure blessing from God.

And that is exactly why I need to forget it.  My eyes have swerved from wanting to know Christ right back to myself.  And I cannot press towards any goal with my eyes on myself. Its hard, when you are suffering, to not try to present your evidence to God about why things should be better, but all God has to do is bring up the last trial — when I was acquitted for an even greater crime.

And that is enough to keep my eyes on Jesus.

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Rock Bottom

Category : christian culture

One of the effects of the fall is it takes very little for us to feel righteous and it takes alot for us to feel sinful.

Generally it will take us hitting rock bottom before we realize that we are sinful, but only a couple compliments to think too highly of ourselves.

That is why continual repentance and remembering your justification are so critical to the Christian life.  It’s the bumpers that keep you from the effects of self-righteousness and lets grace shine in.