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Why Are Some People Who Love Jesus So Condescending?

Category : bible, christian culture

Walk in to any church and you will eventually bump into someone who loves Jesus, but is almost impossible to be around because they are so condescending.  This is always a puzzle.

Their condescension does not usually flow from ignorance of the doctrines of Christianity.  Condescension will usually use truth as its weapon of choice.  If it’s not ignorance what is it? And how do we keep from falling into the same trap?

The reality is that these people are so condescending because of why they love Jesus.  They love Jesus because He always wins his arguments and confounds the people who are trying to make him look stupid.  When Jesus shuts the mouth of the Pharisees or Scribes the heart of these disciples swell.  They fantasize about beating people in debates and being so sharp with their answers that people cannot help but be in awe.

They imagine themselves as Jesus, righteously defending truth against its enemies.  But they don’t love Jesus, they love winning arguments.  They love making people look stupid.  And Jesus fits their mold perfectly.

They miss the fact that they were never to first identify with Jesus in his interactions with his opponents.  They are to identify with Jesus’ opponents.  They are the ones that have opposed Jesus.  Instead of seeing the subject of Jesus’ confrontations as instructive, they see them as a principle to get better at debate.

Ironically, they have become the Scribes and Pharisees that Jesus so deftly refutes.  And we are all capable of this same blindness when we love winning arguments more than listening to Jesus.  Someday when we stand before Jesus my hope is that we would love Him for saving us from our self-rightousness, instead of self-righteously thinking we are just like Him.

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Burnout is Bitterness

Category : Leadership

If you have been in a church or any Christian ministry you will observe this phenomenon: the person who began volunteering with alot of joy leaves the church a few months later explaining they’re “burned out.”  The leaders may explain to the burned out person that they can take a break, but usually it is too late — they are out the door.

We often associate burnout with exhaustion, but burnout is usually bitterness.

Their service has a honeymoon period where they believe they are serving the Lord and the church.  But somewhere along the way, and this is subtle, they don’t feel like they are getting thanked properly for their service.  Or they begin to see that they are putting alot of work in when others are just treating the church like consumers.

Then a little thought pops into their minds, “I thank you O God I am not like those other people who attend church just out of a consumer mentality.”  And this leads to a new found sense of righteousness and superiority in their service, which only leads to anger and bitterness.

No one gets bitter because of their “sin”, they get bitter because of their “righteousness.”  They think they deserve better.  And as soon as this attitude takes hold, the work becomes exhausting.  Because the work must now reward them and help them get recognized.  What formerly was a desire to serve, now has become a demand for recognition and the end result is always disappointment.

And that is why the person doesn’t just resign from their job, they leave the church altogether.  And, ironically, all their reasons for leaving have nothing to do with them, it is the church that’s the problem.